Saturday, 13 February 2016

Breaking the stereotype with I am capable



Women have long been judged by their appearance and their achievements as well as their qualities get ignored. Men tend to classify women into types grading them by their looks depending on what kind of a dress they wear or their particular hair style. This gives a back seat to their qualities and achievements which are completely ignored by the men in particular and the society in general who happily cast them into stereotypes. For them if a woman has short hair then she is surely a tomboy and is never to be taken seriously irrespective of her merits. They bracket the women who prefer to wear jeans to be one who do not care for tradition. The women who prefer to wear a sari or a salwar kameez are marked as a Behenji.Then the women with long hair are considered to be homely but are not considered to be ambitious by the men. If a girl or a woman sports a tattoo then she is looked upon by men to be strange and some one different.
It is very difficult to understand why a woman with short hair is considered to be a tomboy. It is possible that she is a sedate and principled person and her short hair belies her personality. Her short hair may be due to many reasons. It may have been a medical need or stunted hair growth or even by choice. What her short hair has to do with her inner capabilities. She may be a great achiever in the field of literature, finance or even science and sports.It is beyond my comprehension as to why long hair which are considered to add to the beauty of a woman casts her into the bracket of being homely and not being ambitious. She may be a great achiever like being a great dancer or a singer.If you wear jeans then you have no regard for tradition and if you follow tradition by wearing a sari or a salwar kameez then you are a Behenji.There is no doubt that women are judged by what they look like then by what they do and can do..
This has been proved not only by experience but also by the results of a survey by Nihar Naturals #IAmCapable conducted by Nielsen India.The results reveal that
a.       69% of men agree that their judgment of women is based on their looks.
      b. 64% of women agree that the judgments passed on them have affected their ability     to reach their true potential.
       c. 70%of women agree that majority of judgments on women are from family   members or friends rather than strangers.
d. 72% of women agree that working women face more judgments on their looks or their clothes than housewives.
I have personally faced this and experienced the judgmental looks and sniggering by the opposite sex when I entered the portals of my college.I had long hair and on top of this I loved to wear a salwar kameez. Short dupattas were not for me I flaunted the graceful flowing ones which made me feel like royalty. I knew very well that my dress was perfectly suited for me and it did not detract any of my mental capabilities. What I wore was my personal choice and I was not to be deterred by what people thought. I knew that I would prove to be a winner in this war of stereotyping. The strange looks did not deter me and my application of my knowledge and the resultant good grades made those very people who thought me to be a Behenji and not at all ambitious  eat their words. On the other hand the girls were enamored by my Dupattas and many took to wearing them. I am happy that I refused to be stereotyped and not only did I earn appreciation but also inspired many to follow suit. I had proved that #IAmCapable.

 “I’m breaking stereotypes based on appearance by sharing my experience for the #IAmCapable activity at BlogAdda in association with Nihar Naturals.”

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